tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post4074796170080616053..comments2023-07-09T06:22:53.542-04:00Comments on Masculine Jew: I am Man, and That's the Way I Am.Ish Yehudihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09559113766026730554noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-21734645737056310552011-08-26T14:38:27.880-04:002011-08-26T14:38:27.880-04:00For many men, it can feel overwhelming. Unfortunat...For many men, it can feel overwhelming. Unfortunately not all men learn that all they need to do is provide a listening ear and an empathetic understanding from the women they grow up around.<br /><br />Many men also don't learn that strong emotions aren't the end or even an indicator of a bad relationship. <br /><br />Perhaps with a bit more guidance, and less urging to "just be nice" to avoid emotional storms/turmoil, boys would grow up into men who work to understand and empathize instead of skirt around negative emotions with niceness.Ish Yehudihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09559113766026730554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-70935012045134718152011-08-25T15:51:36.787-04:002011-08-25T15:51:36.787-04:00It is like a phobia for men to listen to a emotion...It is like a phobia for men to listen to a emotionnal woman? This I didn't realise. <br />So sad... but there is still cognitive therapy :)lillettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16088992108265007591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-68117568454710297342011-08-25T14:53:25.987-04:002011-08-25T14:53:25.987-04:00@ YN:
It comes up every so often. It came up rec...@ YN: <br /><br />It comes up every so often. It came up recently, and I was thinking about it.<br /><br />@ SoG: <br /><br />I has a similar experience in high-school. I wonder if rejecting their ways was a value judgment, and why it would be devalued. It's certainly looked down upon by society. <br /><br />@ lillette: <br /><br />Pretty much ANYTHING that anyone avoids is due to anxiety, which is rooted in fear and pain. But tell someone with a phobia that their anxiety isn't the end of the world, and that the other side of their fear is freedom... <br /><br />Unfortunately it doesn't change the way most people think, feel or act in the face of anxiety.Ish Yehudihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09559113766026730554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-72290003783357827602011-08-25T14:04:18.671-04:002011-08-25T14:04:18.671-04:00But it seems to me that to manage to be empathetic...But it seems to me that to manage to be empathetic you MUSTN'T be afraid of the emotions.<br /> It is not enough to tell boys "be nice". They have to know that that they 're going to feel anxious because of their wife's negative emotions, impatient, they will want to run away (leaving her lonely and very sad).<br /> but if they DO manage to get over that anxiety and focus on her, that 's wonderful because it is a way to connect. Is it really so delicate? I mean, feeling anxious is not the end of the world specially if you know what you can get. What would you lose of your male-ness (which is...? a stereotype to be "strong"?)lillettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16088992108265007591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-59781573050646278112011-08-25T11:50:26.218-04:002011-08-25T11:50:26.218-04:00I think you make some very interesting points here...I think you make some very interesting points here. I think I developed a similar woman-centered sort of persective during my high school years - not because I saw anti-men sentiments in the media, but because I saw first hand in my secular high school what these hormone-driven guys acted like. I totally rejected their ways and subsequently had more female friends.<br /><br />I think it is a very delicate balancing act for a man to maintain his male-ness and also cater toward understanding and interacting with women. This was true while dating, and is certainly more true while married when the process is much more dynamic, interconnected and immersive. <br /><br />It's kind of like learning a language in college and then going to live in that country to try out your skills - you will make mistakes, but the longer you are there in that environment, you'll learn, grow, and adapt.<br /><br />Keep up the good work! Male dating bloggers are few and far between, and it seems like we keep getting married. You provide a very informative and inspirational voice for us all.Shades of Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02733139852424935591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-66412899088776973992011-08-25T01:34:51.889-04:002011-08-25T01:34:51.889-04:00I don't understand why you went on a rant abou...I don't understand why you went on a rant about you masculinity... is it something that comes up?Yedid Nefeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05768603382212408288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-81868409625879232442011-08-25T01:04:36.633-04:002011-08-25T01:04:36.633-04:00it is always good to hear the perspective of the o...it is always good to hear the perspective of the opposite sex. it helps put things in perspective.frum single femalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592899863773572708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-19812094881614146802011-08-24T15:52:02.578-04:002011-08-24T15:52:02.578-04:00Most Jewish boys are taught to be nice. I learned ...Most Jewish boys are taught to be nice. I learned to be empathetic and understanding. The difference boils down to this: not being afraid of a woman's emotions. <br /><br />While everyone expresses themselves somehow, many people do not learn effective ways of expressing themselves in ways that others can listen and accept easily.Ish Yehudihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09559113766026730554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-85264629949316922862011-08-24T06:27:19.837-04:002011-08-24T06:27:19.837-04:00I didn't know guys were taught to be empatheti...I didn't know guys were taught to be empathetic and understanding and it was a sin to be a man.(but i don't live in US)<br /><br /> I was thinking that the women did suppress their feelings or opinions to please everybody so maybe they got resentful after so many centuries of that. and now men suppress theirs to be good man?<br /><br /> so conclusion : everyone needs to learn to express himself or herself respectfully and to listen to the other side. So i can't wait either!lillettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16088992108265007591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8252262388416087547.post-78635503255777588692011-08-24T03:09:46.953-04:002011-08-24T03:09:46.953-04:00Are you kidding me?! I spend a ridiculous amount o...Are you kidding me?! I spend a ridiculous amount of time trying to understand the male psyche! It fascinates me! Everyone says that men are the simple ones and females are the difficult and complex ones to understand but (being a woman), I find it much harder to understand what goes on in your brains...but when I do find out a snippet of information, it boggles my mind! Please post as much as you can on the topic! I can't wait! :)FeistyFrummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00087256024971595173noreply@blogger.com