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Aug 26, 2013

Stop Looking for Your Bashert

I was surprised to have run across this article over a year after it was posted on the OU's website, but I was equally surprised to see some of the points contained therein. Here's the short version:

1) There is no such thing as a "bashert" or "the one." Compatibility is in large part a choice to make things work.
2) Marriage doesn't just happen "at the right time," it takes work to build up to. Maybe even getting over yourself, at least a little bit.
3)  Don't be so narrow minded about who may or may not be marriage potential.
4) People are not a half of anything, nor are they incomplete until marriage.
5) Stop being superficial. Question your image or expectations (eg. where did they come from? what about them is actually important?) instead of blindly letting them drive you.
6) Commitment is a choice most people make with a degree of uncertainty. We don't "just know" if the person is "right."
7) Online dating isn't pathetic or desperate, it's another path in the dating world.